I agree with what your saying, i only personally get tired of responding to FED's when it's just one person doing it so it's over before you get there most of the time and they or others constantly go one man and trip the alarm i feel it's lame. If it's like a big gang doing FED or bank it's pretty fun since it actually requires some strategy to it.
Also getting kidnapped sounds like fun (sounds weird i know) but we're on a roleplay server as long as their giving you something to roleplay on you should just enjoy it and go along however you feel necessary.